Wednesday, August 28, 2013

City School has begun: Anthony and my 1st day back

Well, since I couldn't take the kids for donuts before school, I planned ahead.  Sunday night I bought some on discount at the groccery store.  The kids were fully satisfied with my @2.49 dozen--- that evening, the next morning and for after supper snack the past two nights... well Jayna had ice cream instead last night, but same difference!

This years school arrangement and timing means that I drive both kids to mom's on my way to work.  Anthony's bus comes 10 min later this year than last and I have to leave the house 10 min earlier in the morn to drop Jayna off at mom's so instead of leaving him home alone in hopes he can figure out timing and pull himself away from the computer/game etc at the right moment, Mom and dad take both kids.  I drop them off at 7:45am.  They get Jayna to school at 8:15 and Anthony to school by 8:35.

Anthony is shy and doesn't say much about school.  Which is an improvement from last year when he was upset about the bully.  If it is bad, he will alert us so minimal reports means he is just fine.  I do like his teacher Mrs. Mattocks.  She taught 2nd last year but moved up to 4th this year.  She is very sweet and hopefully will be a repeat of his amazing 2nd grade year with Mrs. Carroll and make up for the craptastic year last year with the not so beloved teacher.

I am glad to be back to my beloved crossing guarding!  My Lynchburg Police Department friends have already been extra helpful this year and the start of the year this year has been more smooth as far as violations go than last year.  The busses have had a rough time getting to school on time but that will improve in the next week and life at school will become routine... well mostly routine.  3 days into the school year and I haven't really had anyone sail through the the stop sign, and only one car has tried to intentionally disobey my directions--- I won that dispute.  My police buddy, cruiser 45 has been cruising my street and has caught illegally parked cars and so far has been kind to only give warnings.  Seeing is so much easier when my line of vision isn't blocked.  Now to see how long it lasts going so smoothly.









Jayna's first week of school

Jayna's first day of school came well before Anthony's.  Because when you are 8 or 9- a week is like a month-- even if in that week you will only attend two days!  Jayna started school August 19th.  It was actually perfect timing and I am glad it started a week earlier than Anthony.  By it starting sooner, I was able to take her to school and be fully involved in her first week at her new school.  Otherwise I would have been working my crossing guard fun and would have missed it all.

Jayna clearly stated she was not at all nervous, but was quite anxious and excited.  We packed her lunch the night before- yogurt, cheese, nectarine, crackers and granola bar in her new Littlest Pet Shop lunchbox and filled up her bottle with lemonade.  She had to have her nails painted after he bath so she'd be stylish enough for her first day.

On Sunday night I told her it was bedtime and there was no argument.  She was so excited she went straight to the couch, covered up and zonked out.  Yes I realize most kids would/should be in their beds but since big bro didn't have school he was staying up later and we didn't want him disturbing Jayna so he was happily killing zombies or climbing buildings like Spiderman on his PS3 upstairs and she was peacefully asleep.
Monday morning she got right up and only changed her outfit twice.  For her, the fashion diva, that was impressive to only change twice.  She went with khaki's and a pink polo and her new beloved shoes.

I made Anthony tag along and we hit off a bucket list item and our tradition of a special breakfast on the first day of school.  We tried out the new donut shop.  They were quite friendly and even gave the kids a free donut hole to try along with their donut of choice.
Amusing donut decor--- read closely






 We arrived at Desmond T.Doss Christian Academy just before 8:15am so had to wait in the car for a few minutes.


We went inside at 8:15 and  unpacked her backpack and organized its contents as instructed by her teacher Mrs. Jeannie.  Then she went to the hallway and found her cubby area and hung up her backpack and jacket and put her lunchbox and drink inside the cubby.



I picked a very excited Jayna up along with Anthony.  It was mandatory that Anthony and I meet her best school buddy: Tootie


 We also had to visit Radar too, but being a tad crowded I didn't catch a picture.  However courtesy of Mrs. Jeannie's blog, meet Tootie close up and Radar.

Jayna loved school, especially learning all about Christian the Lion, taking pictures with Tootie and making new friends-- most of whom she couldn't remember their names, but just the same they were all her "friends" already on day one!  She was bummed Tuesday that "the network or something was down" so we couldn't watch the movie about Christian the Lion.  Fear not, daddy's network at home is not down--- she will watch Christian the Lion :-)  And so far, that really has been her one and only complaint--- ok that is a lie... complaint #2 being forced to practice addition facts of the week at home with me.  I'm such a mean mom.

Jayna only attended the first two days of week one.  Being that her attendance to her new school is so sudden and a last minute decision, we already had our beach trip planned and payed for so we all still went to the beach.  That combined with her love of day 1 and 2.... this has got to be the best first week of school ever!












Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Vacation with Grandma Pam

Anthony and Jayna spent the week at Grandma Pam's new house.  This wasn't just Anthony's first ever time spending the night at Grandma Pam's, but it was also his 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th and 7th time!  It was Jayna's 3rd visit for an overnight.  I dropped them off after church on Aug 11th.  
I had to convince Anthony he would be just fine there.  He was nervous.  I promised him if he called me in a day or two and wanted me to come get him I would.  I didn't call them because I figured it would tempt him to want to come home rather than giving a vacation to Grandma's house a try.
I left them happily playing with Tinkerbell the pup and Rosie the kitten.  Jayna had also found Grandma's supply of pipe cleaner crafts and was happily creating things.
The kids were very well spoiled!  Grandma took them to the park, the water park, a river/creek, for pizza and zaxby's-- in addition to plenty of fun at her nice new big house!  Thanks grandma for great summer memories!

Saturday, August 24, 2013

Shoe Shopping

As a kidlet, I fully remember back to school shopping and loving it.  Mom would take us.  School supply shopping was very different back then.  Our elementary teachers provided all the bare minimums: paper. journals,8 crayons, pencils.  BUT Mom spoiled us with extras.  The of course needed Lisa Frank folders and pencils, the mandatory big box of at least 48 crayolas--- Roseart didn't cut it but even more preferable and twice or so I got the 64 pack pf crayolas with the built in sharpener--- that worked about as good as using your teeth to sharpen the crayons, but hey it was there!  A vast majority of my clothes were hand me downs in elementary.  But I do remember getting new shoes and loving it!

Now a days here, there are specific school supply lists right down to the required color of notebooks.  The wear school uniforms.  There is very limited room for individuality and fun in my opinion.  I don't love school uniforms regardless what reasoning I hear for it.  The one thing the kids can pick out and there are no specific rules on- shoes!

We went to oh so (read too) many shoe stores in search for the perfect shoes and the best deal.We comparison priced to ensure we got the shoes they really wanted at the best price.  Anthony was insistent from our shopping trip's start that he wanted Nike's and not high tops and preferably some neon or flashy color(s).  These were his top pick at a decent $55.   He is a whopping size 11 in men's at the "ripe" ole age of  9 and 1/2 years old!   Anthony's shoes were actually from our first store.  But true to Anthony form he is not excessively picky and doesn't overly care.  His three requests were made in this pair of shoes. 


We continued in search for Jayna's perfect chosen school shoes-- 9 shoe stores and nothing was really what she wanted.  She could care less about name brands but I think they last longer, are more comfortable so worth the price difference.  To Jayna the ONLY requirement is that it must stand up to her idea of fashionable which often includes some type of sparkle to it, but not always.  Typically her choice fashion wear also isn't the most popular but it is her own style.  I love her individuality and how she is fearless when it comes to being one of a kind.  We ended up getting her a pair of shoes she had seen the first week of July from Wal-mart.  She had remembered them for over a month and nothing in 9 other stores could top it.  She just fits a size 6.  This will be her last time buying shoes in the girl's department.  Hopefully her feet don't grow too much because I did buy her these shoes without growing room, knowing her fun kiddie shoe option days are over after this pair.  Her shoes cost $16.97.



 I sorted all the kids' clothes, hung them and donated the ones they outgrew back to Sheffield, hopefully to help a struggling family.  The kids still had plenty of clothes remaining so I didn't need to buy any additional ones for the most part.  I bought Anthony a few pairs of shorts since he didn't have many.  Once we learned Jayna's school uniform policy was a pinch more lenient in shirt color, I had to find her some girly colors: shades of pink. 




Fully ready for school, supplies bought, pack packs packed, clothes hung, new shoes chosen, everything ready... except this Mom who likes all this free time with my kids, doing things, going places, cuddling as we sleep in late, having fun whether with simple everyday stuff or complex excitements.  But it must come to an end and their education continue on.




Thursday, August 15, 2013

Fun in the Sun of Blackwater Creek

Saturday afternoon, I grabbed the kids from Mom and Dad's where they had had a sleepover and played while I worked 3rd shift and then caught a nap.  We headed over to Joyce's house and decided it was time to take the kids to have some free fun.  We went to Blackwater creek, which is and extensive trail for biking/walking with hiking trails and other odds and ends that is a part of the Lynchburg Park's and Rec.  It rolls on for about 15 miles, and that is just the paved parts, not the hiking trails.
We started at the Awareness Gardens
The awareness Garden also doubles as a a butterfly garden both in honor of cancer survivors/warriors still with us and as a memorial of those who won the battle onto the other side, beyond death.

The kids liked the children with cancer memorial fountain.
Jayna was the first to catch a butterfly, and did it rather effortlessly.  Every butterfly catching after this one took a lot more work.
Jayna rang the bell (more than the ring this bell 3 times) in memory of a loved one with cancer or who died of cancer.  Being she is named after grandparents who who have had cancer, it seems appropriate, even if she didn't fully understand.
It was hot.  So by this point, the kids were wanting some water play.  So we headed to a different part of Blackwater Creek Trail and landed at Hawkin's Mill- home of the baby waterfall!  The kids wasted no time at all to hop into the creek and wade in the shallow water and attempt to walk only on the stones and to toss rocks from beneath them in an attempt to skip rocks.

Then they were ready to experience the waterfall.  The big rock was very slick, so I was close by while Joyce handled the picture snapping.

My two, as typical were exceptionally fearless.  They had no worries with getting drenched beneath the waterfall or swimming right out to it.  Realize this is not a huge waterfall with the serious dangers that obviously come with that.  So, no worries they were just fine!

Along the way while enjoying the waretfall and the creek.  This guy came to say hello
And Anthony forced this guy to say hello too, but then released him
Finally we spent our last 30 minutes at the Riverfront Fountain by Percival's Island

And just like that, two more items crossed off of our Summer 2013 Bucket list.  It is clear we won't achieve all 32 items. After all we started a month into summer with this bucket list, but of the 32 items we have accomplished all but 7... and the one we made three attempts (Uncle Joe's donut's but they always seem to run out and close well before their 1pm listed hours of operation).  We are hopeful to get that donut and visit the 1 or 2 more Bucket list items before September.  That will be much more of a challenge though now with school back in session!

Sunday, August 11, 2013

What a change in 24 hours

*editors note, I meant to post this yesterday, as in Friday August 9th.  Although it is "technically" Sunday, to me it is still Saturday, being I work third shift.  It magically becomes the next day at 7am, when I change the on-call doctors.  So technically this post is two days late, to me it is one day late.... thus the title is relevant.
2nd editors note-- THIS IS LONG

Brief Family History Statement:  I had an exceptionally easy time in school.  I was in some gifted classes.  I could effortlessly do well on test without studying.  This was my reality.  In my distorted head as a student, I always believed kids who "failed" in school were not trying, didn't do their work, or were severely disabled (enter downs syndrome, mental retardation or some other drastic and obvious disability).  Now, with eyes wide opened, I feel horrible about this.  I met and fell in love with my husband, far before I ever knew he had a Learning Disability.  Marko and his brothers have a variety of learning disabilities.  The main one is Dyslexia.

My brief thoughts on Jayna: Jayna is eager to please.  Jayna is a hard worker.  She loves to write, although her writing is copying from books and she can't read what she is copying.  By 1st grade I knew she has some learning disability.  I certainly assumed by the end of 2nd grade she has dyslexia and I told the school.  Mrs. Carroll did everything within her power to help Jayna.  Dyslexia is INHERITED.  Did you know it is one of the highest inherited issue in the family tree with a 50/50 odd?!  The child study does not test for dyslexia.  Did you know 20% of students have dyslexia.  Did you know even worse only 1 in 10 kids WITH dyslexia on the tests will qualify for an IEP (or equivelant).

Back Story: Jayna is academically behind, due to the fact she cannot read.  We have been fighting with her educational issues since she was in Kindergarten.  By the end of Kindy, she was on track and meeting all standards.  In first grade, Jayna's teacher was at school for the first 2 weeks, followed by FOURTEEN,yes 14 weeks of a total of 15 substitute teachers.  Jayna quickly fell off track and no one noticed since she had no consistency in teachers.  Parent teacher conferences were canceled and never rescheduled and Jayna's report cards reflected that she was meeting all standards, although by Christmas I had my doubts that she was where she should be.  In late January her teacher returned with limited work.  She still had numerous "sick" days off.  In Feb, they said Jayna was in danger of failing, the first time ANYTHING had been said about her academics negatively.  How she went from meeting standard to "in danger" in a mater of a couple weeks, AMAZING.  Or not.  I doubt anyone actually looked at her work or paid any attention to her academics.  She is well behaved and well liked student who never causes problems so the fact she was in desperate need of additional help was ignored or overlooked.  Jayna finally began getting Title 1 reading help in late February.  However, due to a lot of end of school year testing, for a majority of May she had no additional help.  The school refused to do a Child Study on Jayna.  They wanted to retain her and I refused, because I fully feel they totally dropped the ball and really FAILED Jayna this year (1st grade).  Jayna went to 2nd grade, received Title 1 all year.  She had great teachers who really wanted the best for her and hated watching her struggle as much as I did.  In Dec we again requested a Child Study.  In late January we had our intial meeting and they quickly agreed to do a full Child Study on Jayna to see if she could get an IEP.  That process of testing Jayna by multiple different people in different areas it was April 19th before we had our decision making meeting.  I was optimistic going in, because the previous meeting had gone so well.  They denied Jayna eligible.  I signed that I DISAGREED with their decision.  That following week, I filed a request for an appeal with the director of special education.  I never received a call back.  Then the last day of April I called again and once in May.  Three calls, three voice mails, no response.  Jayna's teacher Mrs. Carroll did her absolute best to advocate for Jayna.  She I think was as disappointed as me in the meeting.  In the paperwork from the child study, it stated things reguarding vision in the Occupational Therepy section.  I scheduled Jayna an eye dr appointment.  Dr. Jon, (Optometrist) diagnosed Jayna with convergence insufficiency.  Again I was hopeful that this was the answer, at last we had a small something to grab onto as an answer.  The symptoms matched and we were hopeful to see progress with her new glasses with prism.  Although Mrs. Carroll referred Jayna for the city's summer school program, apparently she was not approved.  I also followed up with this, communicating with the Ast Principal at Jayna's school  about summer school and a 504 plan.  She told me she was looking into answers.  I asked again 10 days later and she never responded.  I think it is clear the school system is continually passing the buck when it comes to Jayna. She made nearly no progress in a year of 2nd grade and they claimed she didn't even qualify for an IEP, refused to follow through with the appeals process, and wouldn't even accommodate her in summer school or a 504.



A tradition of excellence for some

LCS Mission Statement (our school distict)
Every Child, By Name and By Need, to Graduation.

Apparently they do NOT really mean EVERY child, because it is clear they don't care about my child's educational needs.  They probably mean
Every TYPICAL, Average or above average child, by name (but not always spelled or pronounced right.... all throughout her child study it says Jana and they mis-spoke her name calling her Jane or Jan-uh) and by Basic needs(as long as our typical format works for them with minimal extras), to potential graduation (or whatever it takes to get more funding, for said child)


No longer a Sheffield Elementary Tiger
This Summer: All summer Jayna has "summer homeschool" with Grandma 4-5 days a week.  We have seen no difference other than Jayna complaining of headaches, and all the same previous symptoms.  We went for a second opinion for treatments to help with Jayna's diagnosis.  Dr. Ganser, MD (board-certified pediatric ophthalmologist and also specializes in neuro-ophthlamology) said she saw no signs of Convergence Insufficiency.  So that first week of July we were refered for a third opinion.  Our Appointment with Dr Clark (working with children and infants. She evaluates, consults and treats patients with learning difficulties, autism, head injury, stroke, strabismus, convergence insufficiency, and computer stress syndrome.) wouldn't be until Sept 26th- a long almost 3 month wait, and with that vision issues are at a stand still.  At the same time we took Jayna BACK TO the family Dr to get a referal to a developmental pediatrician.  Again this too is an excessively long wait.  We requested this in early July, our appointment in Nov 6th to see Dr Brennan (Developmental Pediatrics: The Evaluation & Follow-up of Developmentally At-risk or Delayed Infants & Children).  Everything was pretty much at a stand still.     This summer I have again contacted the Director of Special Education.  He finally returned one call to tell me I needed to specifically explain what part of the child study I disagreed with and then he can get us a 2nd opinion.  He told me to look it over and call him back.  I did, and once again 2 calls later, still no response.  We have also put Jayna into counseling for issues including low self esteem/low self confidence, much of which stems from being so much behind academically in comparison to her classmates/friends.  We had Jayna tested at Sylvan Learning Center.  They found her to be on a 1st grade reading level.  They saw ALL the issues we saw with her.  For about $5,500 they THINK they can get her caught up.  But there is no real guarantee.  This costs $50/hour and it isn't guaranteed and it is with 2-3 other students, not even one on one for that price tag!  My older brother agreed to pay for 16 hours of Sylvan.  I was not convinced it would work, but we all agreed if it was going to work, we should be able to tell a NOTICEABLE difference after 16 hours ($700plus).  The day after they agreed to pay for this, we scheduled a meeting at Desmond T Doss Christian Academy after hearing from a church friend that they help children with learning disabilities.

Now a Desmond Doss Patriot
The Meeting:  We met on Friday August 9th at 10am with Mrs. Jeannie at Desmond T Doss School.  I anticipated 30mins of yammering.  I had already found out at least Jayna has Mrs. Carroll again as requested, and had already come to terms of 2nd Grade 2.0 Sheffield Edition.  I was surprised how thorough Mrs. Jeannie was.

  • Jayna will be in a mixed class of 1st and 2nd graders.  This is good for her because she can be both a leader and follower.  She can both teach and be taught.  She won't be a noticeable sore thumb.
  • Jayna will be in a class of 11 (she makes #12, so far)
  • Jayna's teacher actually has a special education major
  • The Tutor Program is a 1 on 1 (free) program because the school noticed "A few of our students exhibited signs and symptoms to warrant the use of a research-based program for dyslexia called Barton Reading and Spelling System.".
  •  An additional program just for Phonics where she can start on the first lesson and catch up to grade level and be successful.
  • A fun writing course which is great for a kiddo who loves to write, but can't write a sentence.
  • She may or may not have spelling words based on her dyslexia abilities
  • Although not required, Mrs.Jeannie creates an IEP for every single student.
And how about some fun stuff about the school!
  • They have classroom pets!  Radar is a lion-headed Rabbit.  Tootie is a cockatoo bird.
  • They have lots of fun field trips
  •  They have a great playground and every grade has outside time!
  • They have gymnastics team (free!)
  • Once they hit 3rd grade they have ski club.
  • Great fun reading spots for independent reading as well as obviously leveled books by color coded dots
  • The have a small school band and 2nd graders can do keyboarding!
  • Fridays are 3/4 day and they get out at 2 not 3:30
Beth's Loyalty:  I am not easy to sell.  My goal in life was to buy a house at 18. I was never ever moving again.  My kids were never going to move so they would never ever have to change schools.  I went into that meeting with NO intentions of attending.  I was listening to another schpill of ideas that I doubted would work for Jayna.  I was sold before I left and had to sell it to my husband.  He wasn't too hard to sell. Partially because he knew we were running out of ideas and partially because he KNOWS Beth and for me to EVER change my mind there had to have been a very seriously real reason.

Closing:  And so this gigantically long blog to say.  Yesterday I was burned out on what to do for Jayna.  Chasing doctors and specialists and school people.  No answers and more questions.  Now I have hope.  I am not dreading the school year but looking forward to it.  My only set back is so wishing we could afford to send Anthony as well.  I do love his school, Sheffield, but I think he too has mild dyslexia.  I am hopeful he doesn't fall further behind.  

 

IF YOUR CHILD IS HAVING TROUBLE READING, COULD THEY BE DYSLEXIC?

GO TO http://www.dys-add.com/ and read the warning signs and about it.
OR
there is a series of videos instead of reading and they are FANTASTIC
Go TO www.susanbarton.com

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Jerry Falwell Museum

I had visited the JFM back about the time it opened, near Dr. Falwell's death in 2007(ish).  It was a great collection of church family history, Lynchburg history and the power of prayer and God working through one many who would never give up.
The kids when I asked then who Jerry Falwell was, didn't know.  Anthony said "Isn't he a guy who writes books".  That is a true statement on him, but Anthony was also convinced he had read his book at the Library.  Although I assume our Library has them, I can assure you Anthony has yet to read his (adult, Christian) books.  I explained to them that JF was Pastor Jonathan's dad and that he had started our church, was the paster at our church for a VERY long time and had also done their baby dedications.  Anthony then remembered seeing a picture of Uncle Mark with JF.  Anthony is correct.  So today we knocked going to the JFM off of our local summer bucket list and we even got to go to an extra- little known to non LU people- DeMoss building attraction as recommended by one of the Museum volunteers.
Cars Jerry's family rode

Jerry's dad had a pet bear named Gertie, so this pet bear is the museum Mascot


The bullet proof pulpit from the old Thomas Road Baptist Church

Anthony and Jayna at the pulpit, complete with Jerry and the choir

Learning about the earlier tv days using the switchboard and video camera equipment

With Anthony's 2nd favorite animal

The kids with the LU mascot Sparky

Uncle Zach and Aunt Rebekah, we found you!

LU Alumni around the world, with the kids pointing to their favorite non-local LUers



 We went up to the 5th floor and up onto the roof which is now a Patio!  The kids were especially enertained by the drummers practicing 5 stories below us IN the fountain pool.  The Patio has two layers, one in which is mostly shaded by an upper patio.  We could hear louder drumming and could tell it wasn't from or friends below.  On the highest part was also a group of drummers drumming!

The white at the hill top is Snowflex
The Vines center doesn't look so gigantic from this view
Drum practice


Drum practice minus the zoom of the camera



The big drum drummers are on the left hand corner of that white patio

You can't barely tell there is anything up on that rooftop--- but the roof,  from the ground

Jerry Falwell Sr's resting memorial

The kid's couldn't resist especially after seeing the drummers
And what adventure can be complete without visiting Mr. DeSagher at the Snow Shack?