Friday, September 26, 2014

Child Care Safety Awareness

This is not my typical blog or blog topic.  This is also not my normal style.  However just like I wrote about domestic violence following the murder of Jennifer.



Last week an in-home daycare caught fire.  You can read all 101 news articles about it from WSET, WDBJ7 or our local newspaper News and Advance.  I will only link one article to save myself time.
Day Care Fire.  It may seem heartless given there are multiple families in extreme emotional pain- and likely the care giver too.  However, if this is thrown under the rug and not brought to light the odds of it happening again, somewhere else, to some more kids is increased.  Your children are worth your time in investigating their child care thoroughly.

The summary basically goes last Thursday about 10am the in-home care provider's house caught on fire.  It was accidental.  It was due to whatever she was cooking, not a faulty appliance or wire.

Ms. Lee was caring for 7 children, a 9 month old, two 21 month olds and 4 children aged 2-4.  The babies were in a bedroom just off the kitchen area.  The 2-4 y/o children were in the basement.  Ms. Lee came out of the house the first time without ANY children with her.  For whatever reason her mind frame was to get out call for help, go save the 2-4 y/o as they were all the way in the basement, and then get the babies.  A neighbor offered to help.  She refused the help and said they were fine.  Remember at this point NO children were even outside yet.  She safely got the 2-4 y/o outside with minimal injuries.  3 of the 4 did go to the hospital when their parents arrived just to be sure.  None were admitted.  Ms. Lee tried to save the babies, but the fire was too bad and blocking the bedroom.  She did burn her hand but refused help saying to help the babies.  The fire fighters did get all three babies out.  None of them were brought out safely.  All three were in critical condition and taken an hour away to UVA Burn Center in Charlottesville.



After the fire it was soon revealed that Ms. Lee was not in compliance with the laws to run an in-home daycare for Lynchburg, VA.


I believe in prevention and learning from mistakes--- that term is being used lightly.

 She needed a business license from the state of Virginia, regardless how many children she cared for as long as she was getting paid.  She did not have this.  If she had this she would have had an initial fire inspection to  ensure protocols were being followed.  She would have had 2-4 of these each year.  She never had a single inspection, as she was illegally running a business, which YES I am aware this is a common practice, a common "under the table" type deal.  But it is NOT worth it.

Next, if you care for 1-5 children you can run an unlicensed child care.  However if you have 6 children or more you need to be licensed and regulated through the Department of Social Services and you need to follow this adult to child ratio.  Had she been licensed, with JUST her and the ages of these children, she still had one child too many.  For parents considering child care for their children, here are the laws on the ratios from Child Care Licensing Agency- Department of Social Services in Richmond, VA

VIRGINIA DEPARTMENT OF SOCIAL SERVICES Page 6 of 32 MINIMUM STANDARDS FOR LICENSED FAMILY DAY HOMES 22VAC 40-110-10 et seq. 11/93
1. 1:4 children from birth through 15 months of age;
2. 1:5 children from 16 months through 23 months of age;
3. 1:8 children from two years through four years of age;
4. 1:16 children from five years through nine years of age; and
5. Children who are 10 years of age and older shall not count in determining the ratio of adults to children for staffing purposes.
B. When children are in mixed age groups, the provider shall apply the following point system in determining the need for an assistant. Each care giver shall not exceed 16 points. The provider's own and resident children under eight years of age count in point maximums:
1. Children from birth through 15 months of age count as four points each;
2. Children from 16 months through 23 months of age count as three points each;
3. Children from two years through four years of age count as two points each;
4. Children from five years through nine years of age count as one point each; and
5. Children who are 10 years of age and older count as zero points.
EXCEPTION: The point maximums for mixed age groups or the fixed adult-to-child ratios may be exceeded in one age group for no more than one child for up to one month from the date of the child's enrollment during transitional periods when there is turnover in children receiving care and when the ages of the child leaving and the child entering care do not match.

 There were no steps taken to prevent this incident, no fire extinguishers, no fire plan, the cordless phone battery was even dead- which in VA she is required to have landline cordless phone  as a daycare provider.  Those are ways that the level of this tragedy could have likely been lessened, although I am aware and agree there are no guarantees in life, but why play the lottery with innocent children, at least do the bare minimal requirements.
 Marko had a business for 5 years.  We had to load his work van with safety vests, a fire extinguisher, cones, a first aid kit and flares.  Have we NEEDED these items, no!  But they are a preventative measure for himself, and the people near the work sites he worked at-- as well we had one million dollars worth of insurance JUST IN CASE he was hurt, or someone else was hurt.  He didn't NEED that much insurance, but we felt responsible and needed to "cover our backs" but also to do what is right IF an emergency accident occuerd.    These are bare minimal guidelines for a company that worked in IT,Phones and cabling.  I'd expect at least the bare minimal done for someone who cared for my children- they are irreplacable unlike the phones and computers Marko handled.

 Social Services has readily available a list of providers (centers and homes) and the results of their 2x a year inspections.  As a parent it is my responsibility to do the leg work and investigate a center/school/home before having my child go there.  My mom has fire extinguishers, smoke alarms and carbon ones too.  The preschool my children attended, I pulled the Social Services papers before I agreed to send them.   I did minimal leg work for the public school as I trusted the state and city- prob more than I should, however I was very actively involved there and did see and even participate in several drills there over my years when the times of the drills happened to occur while I was volunteering.  I sent my kids to day camp through the Parks and Recs and I investigated that program too.  I almost always happened to be at the pool when my kids came swimming, just as a precaution even though my kids knew how to swim.  The one day I felt they were short staffed, I stayed and was a volunteer helper until more staff arrived and I walked a few miles home.  No it wasn't conveniant that day, but I felt it was absolutely necessary.    When I sent the kids to a private school last year I did more leg work, and I even asked my kids if they did a fire, tornado drill, did you have a lock down--- not because I think that they will face these emergencies but because I want them prepared just in case.  In addition I volunteer there at least twice a week.

I want ALL parents to know the resources available to help you investigate your child's childcare provider and to do the leg work.  This couldn't have been fully prevented it was an ACCIDENT.  ACCIDENTS happen.  However if the proper steps were in place the severity and life long impact likely would have been minimized.

If she would have had a fire extinguisher, if she would have had a fire plan, if she would have been licensed and followed the protocols given to her, if her phone wasn't dead she could have called sooner, if she hadn't gone outside with NONE of the children the first time, if she would have ACCEPTED help from neighbors instead of telling them she didn't need their help, if all the children would have been closer (the children under 2 were in the bedroom by the kitchen, the kids age 2-4 were in the basement--- yet another huge glaring question).  I don't have the answers and maybe if she would have followed the laws and rules and protocols the outcome would have been the same, but maybe we could be reading our newspaper about a hero daycare provider who saved all the children she legally was caring for.  I don't like to say this is a wake up call, but it is.  Hopefully it opens parents eyes to do the leg work that is their responsibilities and hopefully it encourages other providers to ensure they are following regulations.

Two precious little girls died in this fire (of the three critically injured.).  I am beyond thankful for a community that supports one another and am glad to say they have reached their initial funeral fund raising goals.  However, they still have medical expenses (for 5-7 days in ICU) and all the othere expenses related to this-- time off work, travel, food, etc etc etc.  If you choose to help financially you can donate to

Kayden Rain














Dakota Aubrey












The other child in critical condition was released from UVA today, 8 days after the fire.  No word on his name or medical details or a fundraising page for him.  Hopefully he makes a full recovery.

NOW BACK TO THE PURPOSE OF THIS BLOG.  These links are for helping you to make an imformed decision on your child's care provider:

1. Educate Yourself on the types of child care options, how to interview a provider, what to ask and look for here at Child Care Guidance for Parents and chose what type of child care you want- in home or a center.
2.  Do a Search on child care options near you, starting online using the Department of Social Services search center website
3.   Look at Inspection- I did look through several inspections and most had minor violations (the same is true of restaurants), so you actually need to take the time and decide whether the violation is critical or minor and is it corrected.  The inspections were often most of a day long.  They  include everything from employee files to playground maintenance. This may help you narrow down your choices and then you can
4.  Take a Tour of your potential day care centers.  Compare your top picks.  An inspection is not going to guarantee you happiness so you need to get a feel for your potential child care choice.
5.  Interview the provider prepare questions ahead of time.  On the first link under Educate there were some great tips.

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Day in the Park 2014

Twas a rainy Saturday, and all through the city the people were sleeping.  The plans had been laid and it was to be a fun Day in the Park--- until the rain came.  Most people cancelled their plans to attend, which made it an even more enjoyable day.  The unfortunate side is even our friends cancelled their plans to go with us.  Anthony declared day in the park was boring and chose to stay home with Daddy.  Jayna and I grabbed umbrellas and headed out. 
Jayna started off with Johnson's Health Center's obstacle course, enjoyed some of Parks and Rec's Hula Hooping---- and even if it isn't obvious, YES she is hulaing successfully on her knees.
Jayna got her face painted.  And we learned about suicide prevention.  There had been 53 murders since 2006 and 237 suicides (that's what these ping pong balls represent)
 
The petting farm was hit--- as we found our Stevie pig friend there!!
Next was Pony rides.  She did this a second time before we left.  The line the first time was non existent because it was raining and the second time she only had to wait one cycle before it was her turn.  Comparative to other years, the line for pony rides could easily take a half hour, seriously!
Then it was our favorite: the ride.  In Years past I'd wait in line for over an hour in the trillion degree heat for the kids to ride.  Maybe this is why Anthony calls the Day in the Park boring?!... anyhow there was no line we were third in line and I got to ride with Jayna.  Pictures can't depict what happens, but there is a steering wheel in the "car" and you can spin as much or as little.  It is easily fair to say we spun at full force speed the entire time.  The ride itself barely seemed to move as we were spinning ourselves so fast.  And it was raining on us so it was like a water ride :-D  The second time, I was still eating my lunch so she rode solo, but still had fun, just not as much as we had the first time in the rain!
We watched a 15 minute belly dancer performance, and you know Miss Jayna did some of her own dancing while we watched.
Then we did a 9-1-1 First Responders scavenger hunt, enjoyed the Park's and Rec exhibit whith "fishing" and the Nature Zone's turtle and critters.  She joined story time and got a free Ramona Quimby book.  We played on the playground a while and of course the giant slide. 






Remember it's been raining on and off sine early morning (5am), sprinkling most the day and well, Jayna is a fan of the giant slip and slide and happily rode it, the only rider in sight many times and became soaking wet.  And that's ok because we had so much fun and couldn't care less if we were wet!

 We ate lunch- Jayna had hotdog, popcorn and lemonade while I had chicken bbq pulled pork sandwich with slaw and helped Jayna with her popcorn and lemonade.  We had Italian ice for dessert.  Jayna didn't like her flavor so she ate mine.  We bought it from my favorite school bus driver who had a booth there.  I hope it rains every year.  Oh wait the venders may not like that plan, but I sure would, no lines and extra fun :-)
I got home and Anthony was mad we had seen Stevie so he is "Never talking to me again". 


Wednesday, September 17, 2014

A Fun Saturday Just Because

Jayna's church Oasis was holding a "Back to School" Festival.  After 3rd shift, I got a shower and a sweet tea to wake up more.  I took my two kiddos, Ant's buddy RJ, and the kids friends Will, Diamond and Alexus to the festival. 
They started by playing 4 or 5 games.  Then it was craft time where we each made our own hat.  We had a hotdog, popcorn and snowcone lunch.  Then they were in bounce house paradise.  They also got some face painting, nail painting, football throwing and veggie tales watching in... and 37 more snowcones I think too.  It was hot hot hot out so they were a life saver.  The church also gave school supplies to the kids who didn't have any supplies to do homework with or enough supplies at school. 


After the church festival, I went to pick up the sweetest baby boy I know!  That's right, I got to babysit Tristan!!  Now is when I decided to get an oil change, yes while I had a total of 7 kids with me.  And for their good behavior I rewarded them with a visit to Liberty Mountain's Snowflex


Then we headed the rest of the way up Liberty mountain to the LU monogram for a brief hike.

Then we went back to our house.  The kids played, I washed dishes then made supper.  After we ate, I took the kids home and went to mom and dad's to visit with Zach and Rebekah until it was time to take my little sweetheart home and go to work myself.


Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Uncle Zach and Aunt Rebekah Time at Last

This was Jayna Olivia, as I broke the news to her after school on Friday prior to her baptism.  Uncle Zach and Aunt Rebekah can't come.

She was an extremely sad and heart broken little Jayna--- and this picture was taken 10 minutes after leaving school and is a calmed down version taken through my mirror.

I tried to make it a fun weekend for her to keep her mind and heart busy and happy.  We spent time with cousins and Poppy of course.
Life went on, the kids had another week of school, cross country, the first Adventurers club meeting.  Then it was the long Labor Day weekend.  Monday morning Jayna's friend's Aunt texted to set up a play date.  We of course jumped on that!  Then about noon mom called to say Zach and Rebekah would be here in Lynchburg between 3:30 and 5:30.  But they wanted it to be a surprise.  We went ahead with our plans and met at the Spray Ground and the kids played and Tiffany and I chatted.  About 5 it was time for everyone to go their separate ways.
I had the kids convinced Daddy wanted to take us out to eat for Labor Day.  Then magically when we got to Moe's Uncle Mark was there.  That was cool we both chose the same restaurant, but the kids adore Uncle Mark, so no excuse needed to have supper together.  And then as we chatted with Uncle Mark.... this happened....
 Check out Jayna's mixture of shock and excitement... while Anthony didn't even initially notice!
All of us enjoyed a meal together, a long over due meal!  Afterwards, we went to mom and dads to socialize with them until almost 10pm.  Jayna convinced Grandma and Poppy to let her sleepover.

On Monday, Uncle Zach and Aunt Rebekah took the kids to school and got to meet their teachers.  Once I got off crossing guard and Z and R got back to mom and dad's house, we went to brunch at Famous Anthony's with mom.  After eating we went window shopping at a couple bookstores before it was time to go back to crossing guard.  Conveniently, it was quite hot Tuesday so cross country practice was cancelled.  Aunt Rebekah did Jayna's hair, then taught her some Zumba.

We decided to go to Black Water Creek trails together.--- well with Toby too.  First we played at the waterfall section at Hawkin's Mill.
Of course we tried out the trails and by request we went through the tunnel.  Jayna begged and won a
piggy back ride-- spoiled girly!
We had a good hike together, and it was wonderful to get to spend time together!
Then we headed back to mom's and dad's where dad and I prepared supper, until work called me in-- oh goodie :-/  I headed there for the remainder of the night while the kids ate and spent the night.  On Wednesday we had breakfast together again at Bob Evans.  Then as is typical we window shopped some more on Wards Rd.  It sure was nice actually getting to know Rebekah better!  They then left for WV to head and see the grandparents and our WV family members.  On Saturday evening they returned to mom and dad's house.  I was in the middle of cooking supper when they arrived so I finished supper, took the kids friends home and then we went to mom and dad's.  Jayna again spent the night.  Uncle Mark sure tried to get Anthony to agree to stay.
On Sunday after church we had spaghetti.  Then I had to take Joyce to work.  We planned to go to Amazement Square, but when we got there, they were closed for remodeling.  Instead we went bowling at AMF.

They headed home after bowling, to where they are now stationed in Baltimore.  The kids and I are already looking forward to the next time we can all get together!!

Monday, September 1, 2014

Good Bye Summer

My favorite season is over, regardless what the calendar reads.  Because, all wise people realize summer is not indicated by a temperature or a date on a calendar but by the last day of school until the first day of school, for that is when summer really is.
The only fun part of back to school is spending a paycheck on all those needed items.  Ok Honestly, I am NOT complaining as the kids supply list decreased dramatically.
For third grade city schools list is 51 items-- and no that doesn't include backpack, lunchbox, agenda
For fifth grade city schools list is 54 items.  At their school they only had 12 items on Jayna's list and 26 on Anthony's.
I let each kidlet get a new pair of sneakers and a first day of school shirt.  I also let Jayna get a pair of dress shoes.  Since the kids wear uniforms, they still have plenty from last year and Jayna gets some hand me downs from Anthony.

Jayna has suddenly decided she no longer loves pink, thus picking out a blue-ish shirt and mostly blue sneakers.  Anthony wanted a lime green shirt but they didn't have it in his size, so he settled for this green-blue one.
School began Tuesday August 19th.  Since my crossing guard school didn't start back until the 25th I was able to take them and pick them up for the first 4 days.
Anthony decided (for the day at least) that he wants to be a teacher--- since I told him "Gamer" wasn't realistic enough, pick something else.
Jayna has decided she'll be a scientist... not sure where or when she came up with this but it's unique so good!  I like original ideas.
All ready for school
Anthony was bummed his mother obviously slacked enormously and hadn't read the hand book in over a year- and even then I guess I didn't fully follow it.  He was very upset he was in dress code violation.  He doesn't take well to being in any amount of "trouble" anyways.   He gets offended when a life guard blows a whistle so I'm not shocked.  But... he isn't allowed to wear a while belt, only black brown or blue he told me after school.  And it can't have any design or logo so the nike slash is against the law of dress code.  Please don't look at their shoes-- they also have logos... yes I think it is a silly rule- very silly but, realistically I should have read the handbook and then my sweet boy wouldn't have had to be upset.
Jayna seemed content, just was adjusting to a stricter classroom and rules, as is to be expected.
Both kids were glad to be back with their friends.
Cross Country started the next day.  Even with plenty of hiking and swimming Mr. Doss clearly wore the kids out.
Very tired kids after day 1 of cross country


Jayna wanted to edit this one with her new running shorts
Now, at the end of week 2 of cross country, both kids are enjoying it.  I forced Jayna to do it this year after her not liking it much last year.  So, it is quite nice that she's liking it more this year.  Anthony not to my surprise enjoys any active sport.

The kids had their first casual day and I missed the picture, darn!  As expected Jayna dressed to the t-- army pants and matching shirt and jacket- even if it was 90 degrees outside.  Anthony on the other hand grabbed the first two things in his laundry basket and could have cared less if they matched even.  One more cute Jayna picture for this blog of the girly dressing up her school uniform.  It too is probably against the rule book, but no one said anything.

Yes I realize the same shirt is in this picture and she's worn it 3 times within 9 days but I promise I've washed it after each wear and she does have 20 other shirts she could be wearing, but she keeps choosing this one.